This Is What I've Learned...

Let's go back in time a bit... Before we do, let me tell you this... Sometimes, some things just don't come straight to me. Some times I literally think about what I am going to say, and how I am going to say it. This blog is one of those moments that we go all the way back in time. The subject I am going to talk about is an accumulation of a lot of questions that begs answers in today's political correct world. Most of what I will say will not sit well with a lot of you, because the truth is never easy to understand. Some of you will agree with me, and some of you will realize that certain methods is learned, and passed down through history, and time... So, if you don't want to read this, then I don't blame you... If you are still reading, here's a reminder... This is MY BLOG. I will talk about whatever I want, and I will lovingly allow you to agree or disagree with what I think. However, do not expect for me to answer back to your ideas if I am right or wrong... In this world, my word is right, just, and fair. If you don't like it, go back to yours, or create your own.

Adrian Peterson had a long year... Here is a timeline of what went down. Adrian Peterson became Public Enemy #2, thanks to Ray Rice and what he did to his now wife, in an elevator. But everyone wanted to pounce on Mr. Peterson for how he disciplined his child. A doctor claimed that the bruising on the child was "consistent with child abuse." Well, I didn't see it as such. Since when did America FINALLY cared about the welfare of a child, or a person for that manner? Too many times we sit and watch cute little animal videos, or talk about how this and that person is so evil for killing/hurting/abusing/leaving out an animal, but when it comes to our fellow man, we could give less of a shit. There are more laws to protect animals, than there are to protect women of abuse. There are more centers for animals, than there are for children. And lest we forget that men get abused too, right? I have yet to see any type of group or main center try to do anything for men, like the ASPCA and PETA and the WWF does for the lions, tigers, bears, puppies, kitties, and ponies of the world...  But what do people have? The Police? HA! I have a friend who was thrown around her apartment by her shit fucker ex, that will not do a damn thing about it... You never hear anything about abuse shelters for people. and the child-abuse hotline is a joke... You don't hear the outcries of people for people, but let a panda get haunted... let a whale get caught... let an elephant get hunted... Everyone is up in arms...

Today, the only reason why people care for people is because of social media... with the riots in Egypt, the war in Ukraine, the genocides in Africa, The dirty law enforcement in Mexico, and Brazil, and the money stealing fuck holes that are OUR ELECTED officials, we want to do something! What about the man woman and child, across the street? Why can't we care about them? Why is it now becoming a huge subject? Why is a league trying to save face when all of its dirty laundry came out last year? I don't know... but let's get back on subject...

Adrian Peterson was indicted with charges of "reckless or negligent injury to a child."

::Here's where it gets real:: 

For a LONG, LONG time, in this nation... a lot of black parents used all types of things to discipline their children, ranging for belts, wooden spoons, switches, cords, rope, shoes, you name it. My mom did the same thing to me when I fucked up when I was young. School, was NOT for me, and because I fucked up in school, I got my ass beat. I have had welts on my arms and legs and back, and ass, and went to school the next day. I made an apology, life continued. My mother loved me enough to make sure that I didn't end up in the street or dead or on drugs... for most it worked... for some, not so much, but it definitely gave us an appreciation of what is right and wrong, and what will have us get by in the world of the Caucasian America.  What the little boy did was push his brother, and Adrian Peterson nipped it in the bud by disciplining his son the way he was taught to by his father, which was taught by his father, and so on and so on and so on, because his great great great great grandfather learned it from his master, who did this to him.

So, this whole idea was taught, and passed down to GENERATIONS of blacks, until when 2014 it ALL of a sudden became an issue of ABUSE... Ladies and gentlemen, This is not a black problem, this isnt a white problem... this is mind control! In order to break the spirit of a man, who did or did not say or do ANYTHING that the masters said that he or she did or didn't do, they took a whip to the backs of those overworked, and SEVERELY underpaid men and women, and beat them til their legs were paralyzed as a self defense mechanism. I'm not going to bring up lynching and burning of blacks in the early 20th century as entertainment for whites, commonly known as "Picnicking." That's another story for anther blog...

But now... NOW... a little black boy who was disciplined by his father, who learned it from his father, and so on, who was treated like property from a white man who wanted to make sure that his "property" knew how to behave, and do what he said some 400 years before this event, is now an issue... With all the cops getting away with murder of innocent men and women, and women abusers being put in the position of Public Enemy #1, because of a lapse of judgement at the wrong time, who did not have any history of abuse or causing any problems with the league, This was the LAST thing that the league needed to have happen, right? "THAT IS A 4 YEAR OLD CHILD, FOR GOD SAKES!" exclaimed Boomer Esiason on the CBS Football Sunday show. That made him an abuser! And of course millions of white Americans agreed with him, in his IMPASSIONED cry in his speech...  I can tell you that most, if not all of black America saw it as a father loving on his son. If I went back in time and told you how many times my mom may have hit me one too many times a little too hard, it would be around 5 or 6 times from 2-15... That's not including beatings from grand parents, aunts, uncles, and teachers...

See, back then, America wasn't gonna raise bitches... Now a days, if the kids grades aren't good, or if the kids attitude is wrong, its on the teachers! To hell with the parents! The parents don't know what to do anymore! We gotta say a special prayer for the parents of little Timmy who likes to destroy stuff! Don't get him and his roaming gang of 5 year olds go into a restaurant... Shit's about to get ALL fucked up... But this man, who was disciplining his child the way a father was suppose to, to let his son know that he was not about to treat his family, or ANYONE for that matter in a manner to shame HIS name, is looked at as such a bad person... No. He was a loving father! Just don't tell today's P.C. America that.

My mother did a fucking amazing job raising me, and disciplining me all on her own. I turned out fine. My cousins are DJ's, engineers, Coast Guard, Lawyers, mothers, fathers, and GOOD, LAW-ABIDING CITIZENS OF THIS COUNTRY... and they all got their asses beat... I don't see them not doing the same thing to their kids... maybe the methods will be different this time, but, I can guarantee you... Anyone in my family's with the last names Hayes, King, Bell, Stewart, or what have you, will not stand around and allow ANY child bearing their name, to embarrass the name, that my ancestors have worked so hard to make sure that it stands the test of time in this country and world. Those names will be prominent in the halls of congress, the senate, and maybe even the seat of the Presidency of this country, one day. It will be written in credits on silver screens all over the world, and it will not be in the news for murder, conspiracy, money laundering, or any other crime... IF one of our names is in the news, its probably because the sons of the masters are using that scare tactic passed down from generation to generation to keep us at bay! But instead of whipping us.... they are killing us.... Scary.

Addiction > Love/People < Compassion

Today is the second day of February, of the year 2015, and I can now say that I am VERY happy to have moved away from my home state of South Carolina. I am a DAMN PROUD South Carolinian, but, I refuse to be tied to a state where assholes run rampant. It is so embarrassing to call myself a Gamecock fan sometimes, because of some of the people and their ideologies of what is right, wrong, and accepted. It's more so embarrassing to be from a state where you are conditioned by the media to think and feel a certain way for a fellow man...

For those of you who don't know, and don't give a shit about sports, The quarterback for the Cleveland Browns, Johnny Manziel entered rehab. I got the news from gogamecocks.com. Their Facebook status says "Manziel enters treatment, could be an opening for Connor Shaw next season." Now, to those same folks who don't care, Connor Shaw was a 3 year starter for The University of South Carolina's football squad. He won every game at home as a starter, and lost 4 on the road and 1 at a neutral site, I believe... He was an undrafted signee for The Browns and started the last game due to a bunch of injuries to the previous 3 play callers... With that said, I will talk about why I did not like that title of gogamecocks.com Facebook status. As happy as I am for anyone who has played for my favorite college team, who gets a better chance to prove themselves, I am not going to sit around and think that its OK to kick someone when they are down. GoGamecocks.com made it clear that they, on the other hand, do find it OK. So, I say on their thread, "The title suggests that you are kicking someone who is down," and I also stated that "I am a human before I was even a Gamecock." I got several likes about it, but I wasn't looking for likes... I was just telling someone that their wording was not good, because of someones problem with addiction.

Now, I have mentioned it before, but I have my addictions, just like everyone else... Some people can handle theirs a lot better than most. But for the others of us, it's a lifetime battle . I have been fighting porn for a LONG time. I win sometimes, it wins others... but its a battle that will continue for a while... For some, they don't want to see it as such. But I know what I struggle with. It's not fun. It's a waste of my time, its a waste of my energy, its a waste of progress and creativity, but I struggle with it, and I do not take it lightly. The same can be said for any alcoholic or druggie who is trying to do right for themselves. Drugs and alcohol can give you a feeling like no other. It has properties to numb the pain of issues we are not ready to deal with, or we think no one wants to hear about. That is why addiction is so powerful, because the only one who is willing to listen to us, is the demon we are trying to fight. He's the only one who is willing to give us what we want right now, that good good feeling... People who don't want to hear us when we are screaming for help (R.I.P. Amy Winehouse) just tell us that they are going to pray for us, or encourage it, or just ignore all the warning signs that we are headed down the express lane to our downfall. So for Johnny Manziel or anyone to get help is a sign that they care more about themselves and their lives than the party. That is called self-preservation. He wants to live a long and healthy life, and I hope and pray that he has a GREAT support system.

A lot of people only see Johnny for what he is/was-- a spoiled rich kid getting away with everything. But no one wants to see him for what he is now-- a kid crying for help... But what some Gamecocks fans see is Connor Shaw's step towards being a full-time starting QB for The Cleveland Browns...  Now, one thing that has always worried me about the recent success of my Gamecocks was how the fans will act, and react to this new standard of success... Since Coach Steve Spurrier has graced Williams-Brice Stadium in Columbia, South Carolina, a new era of Carolina football became the new norm... now after 11 seasons there, The Gamecocks has done so much more in hist tenure as head coach than anyone else since Joe Morrison. But with consecutive 11 win seasons, 4 straight bowl wins, 1 SEC East title, beating Clemson 5 years in a row in the first time in a LONG time, big name recruits like Marcus Lattimore, Stephen Garcia, Stephon Gilmore, Jadeveon Clowney, Melvin Ingram to name a few, my Gamecocks have seen success like never before. With that success comes a change of mindset by the team, which is adapted by fans, and now makes them looks like arrogant assholes. I blogged one time about this one fan who was telling a GA fan how "classy" he is after a huge win. But that fan was all in the GA fans ear because it was a blow out... Credit to the GA fan for having class and biting his tongue, but still success has brought out the one thing I never wanted to see happen to my Gamecock faithful... It turned some of them into mean, snarky, unnecessary assholes. The same crowd that has been told that are "the best fans in the nation," are unforgiving, unprecedented, non-understanding assholes, and I am ashamed to be considered a Gamecock fan, because of these few.

I bet you any amount of money that if that was George Rogers today, you wouldn't say the same thing about him, like you are about Manziel. But I'm not going to get into all of that. This next concentration of thought is dedicated to the my overall denial of the state of the people in South Carolina... Now, before I start, I will say this: This is not dedicated to ALL of the beautiful people of South Carolina. I don't care who you are affiliated with, when it comes to your college choice, I don't care who you think should be governor, or what you do for a living... This is my thoughts of how I have seen my state grow in the past 18 years since I have moved from her... Not everyone is this way, nor will I pin everyone this way... I mean no offense by what I say, and if you do get offended, that is on you... Every time I go back to visit, its either to see My Gamecocks, or its to see my family... And every time I have gone back, I have seen friends married, friends be successful, friends close doors to me, and even worse, friends not even want to see me when I'm in town... My hometown has changed a lot, and I am happy to not be apart of it. I have had friends come into town, that I didn't even know until I found out on Facebook. I have had friends just stop by and talk about how big and awesome Atlanta is, but wouldn't want me to go out and show them around so they know all the cool spots of this amazing city... But no one said anything except for a special and select few. That's just friends. I have seen old friends at bars, tried to catch up, but blow me off. I went home for a concert not one friend wanted to hang out. now, I understand. We are adults, having to do adult things. I get that... But its still cool just to let me know that you know that I am alive... But lately, it seems that its never fun to be in SC. The growth of popularity of the sports squads, has brought out the worse in the people of the state. But who's to say that I wouldn't be the same way if I was there? I just hope and pray that I never turn that way.

PEOPLE OF SOUTH CAROLINA... COMPASSION ISN'T GOING TO KILL YOU!

This all came about because of that Facebook Status... It seemed very "kick a guy while he's down." And some attacked me because I showed compassion for someone who is struggling. I can't thank God enough that a few can't speak for many. But one guy went as far to say that "He had it coming." Another was calling him all types of nasty stuff... I can't odd dealing with some people. Clearly there is an ignorance of people who are battling addiction. Obviously, these people think God put them in a special place in life to wear they can look upon strong people at their weakest point in life, and think that they never have to deal with any issues ever... But they are wrong... they have a better support system than most people do, or they just don't want to deal with themselves... Always make sure your ass is clean before you talk about other peoples shit.

Instead of being a fan of your team, or your players, let's put that aside and hope and pray that the struggle gets easier for those who are struggling to get their lives back in order. No matter how rich, poor, skinny, fat, short, tall, black, white, red, brown, yellow, purple, green, blue, democratic, independent, republican, you are, we all struggle. The last thing anyone needs to do is show hate and berate anyone for them choosing life over the party... There are many a celeb that I do not like. One being Cam Newton. I do not shy away from my feelings about him, but if he was dealing with an issue, I would hope and pray that he get the right help and surround himself with the right people as well... Being cold to those who are down brings nothing but small mindedness to who you already are, which is a piece of shit. Don't be a piece of shit. Be understanding that you and others are not immune to the temptations of what makes you feel good... Just know that you are BLESSED to have such a strong support system to not allow you to fall into the trap that is addiction. Some are not so lucky... some have to fight off more than just the addiction... They have to fight the media, and the opinionated... And just like the ALMIGHTY Gamecock fans, that has NOTHING really to brag about, because there isn't a title enclosed with the football squad, has no room to talk about anyone who is dealing with addiction.

I do hope Johnny finds a way to deal with his problem, and I wish the same for everyone dealing with whatever that they are dealing with... Its never easy to put ourselves into shoes of the affected, but its always easy to kick them while they are down with our shoes... NOT cool... South Carolina, and everyone who thinks they are above anyone needs to check themselves... Connor Shaw is probably showing more support to his TEAMMATE than any loyal Connor Shaw fan... Think about that. FOREVER TO THEE. And by all means, SC, quit being assholes. Be loving, accepting, and for the love of God, INVITE ME TO A WEDDING OR 2!

P.S. You NEVER bring politics into a conversation about sports... There was one asshole who did... Just... Just shut the fuck all the way up...