Sunday, January 20, 2013

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

The problem with love is that its not clearly known what it is to the individual. We all think that its saying yes at the alter with God and witnesses, and going on trying to make the more as good as you can for you and yours... but is that all love is? Could it be more than that? Could it be less than what we are making it out to be? Why do we all end up hurting from what we think is love? Well, I have a few ideas... Let's explore them... shall we?

Our views of love are completely different from our parents and grandparents... Back in the days when there was still slavery all the way through the depression, and the fight to keep the nation (mostly the south) segregated, love was something that you needed to make it through the next day... Back in those days, strength was a foundation of true love... With love, the story still holds true--boy meets girl, girl falls in love with boy, and they kiss, get married, have sex, and have a family... But in those days, it was that, plus the strength of our better half to get us through the promised hell of the day. So, if a woman stuck by you when you came home bruised, bloodied, and covered in everything under Gods sun, that was love... And plus, no one ran away in those days. No one knew what being irresponsible meant. Still, to this day, its not a word for a reason! Women who defended her children from unlawful treatment from cops, had to come home to a man that she had to hold back from being killed himself... love was more than it is now...

Now, because of my assessment of love then, doesn't mean that what it is now, or back in the 70's is any different... The only difference I can think of is the fact that people were on this new wave of thinking that love was free--as if our actions didn't have any consequences... More than one "lover," lots of drugs, and psychedelics was all the rage, was there anything as real love during this time? Definitely! Not everyone was full of chemicals, and the radical Jesus movements, the flower power, or the need to be "free." Even in those moments, love definitely existed... But was it with a sober mind that they made love what it was then? Or was it a fear of being like their parents that made them try the alternate avenue of love? What was the excuse of the love in the 80's and 90's?

It's evident that love has dissipated by the time the 80's and 90's rolled around... more times than not, a child born was fatherless... the father was not there to help raise the life of the baby that he helped make... Its just fact... Now, all dads that wasn't there, definitely helped out by any means, but for the most part, he didn't help... So, all these women had to play duel roles of mother and father, and it can definitely take a toll on anyone... Same goes for those fathers who has to play the mother role as well. It was not easy! But love is definitely not an issue... only issue is the thought of love... Was it really there? or was it just a passing fad to get something, and to pass up on the responsibilities? Where the hell did fear come into play? What I mean by fear is, the thing that was implanted into the generation who didn't know both parents at the same time. What are we fearing? Is is commitment  Could it be that we are scared to love in order for it to fall away? Is it REALLY a commitment issue?

Well, is it? With technology the way it is today, its so hard to actually hold on to your word... I can't tell you how many times, I pressed that "join/going" button to an event on Facebook to not go... Why didn't I go? Money? Gas? Who knows! I got a catholic bible size novel of excuses... It just goes to show that we can't hold on to something as simple as our word. Also with the world as busy as it has gotten with this thing called "responsibility," it makes things so much more difficult to commit to anything. And in that, love factors itself in there in a different light. Now a days we love beer. We love animals. We love our friends. We love to tear down whatever is in our way be it good or bad. We love to give out the blame. We LOVE to brag about what we are doing or what he have. We LOVE to dream... But what about the girl or guy we met? Do we love them? I can't say for sure, because we LOVE to put ourselves in some sort of ringer when it comes to things like this. When we meet someone who we are attracted to, we don't try to get to know them. We try to get in their pants, and get what we want, and move on with our lives... Sex has become meaningless it appears, and no one wants kids... so many reasons, and fears behind why they don't want them, and so, love is evident that it needs to be pieced together like something from Ikea...

So... when it comes to love in the today and now... where is it? Does it still exist? It appears that once you do get someone, it takes SO long to commit to the "L" word, that its really hard to actually love anyone... So, there's that fear of commitment, and the fear of love... It's sad, and it sucks. Why do we always have to be about our individual selves, and not for the ones we think we like? You know what I mean? I haven't even gotten to those who are in love, but don't want to marry... We all have family or friends that we know, who are popping kids out left and right, and neither wants to actually be under 1 name... not saying that all married couples should be under his last name, but ya know what I mean... Its just so hard to believe in love when its so hard to find, although its right there. And for those of us who really want it, its so difficult to find it, because its been beaten to shit that we will settle for the next thing carrying the disease (seriously, this is the VERY FIRST TIME that I actually spelled "disease" correctly... I AM SO FUCKIN SMART!!!!)... Its just go to show that we all need to work on finding what love is. If not for us, then for our children... If we have any... If we want them... The cycle can end, and it will end, as soon as we collectively figure out that love is just so damn simple to get to know!

Thursday, January 17, 2013

10 words that needs to die RIGHT NOW (or 1 whole year ago.)

As any normal human being, we all learn phrases or terms that are used by the general public, that could be either funny, cute, or just another word to add to the English language like "boycott, or "mud" (both named after men who did something so good or bad, that their names became folklore... pretty bad ass I think!)... There will always certain terms that emerge into public to try to make popular, that usually don't stick in your everyday speech... and those words are what I will give you. wrote down 10 words that I absolutely hate reading/hearing, and I have a few "honorable mentioned ones as well... and with that said... lets get started!

Now, Just to let you know, I do not care about grammatical correctness when it comes to these words... As annoying is it is, for me to think about what one is trying to say "whn dey tipe lik dis tryn 2 get a pnt across 2 sum 1," or when they use "your" instead of "you're" can be VERY annoying, but that's a different subject for a different day. But, today, I am giving you the words that the entire world needs to get rid of... With every word, I will give you, I will give a VERY EMPTY THREAT!!! When I usually threaten someone, its harmless. I never mean it, unless you can tell that I mean it, and that usually means that I'm in your face about it. But because I'm not that type of guy, you have nothing to worry about when I say something threatening. So without further a due, here are the 10 words that I DEFINITELY do not EVER wanna hear/read EVER again in my life.

#10:  "Grind"
Its OK to say that you are working hard... Why do you have to be on your "grind" to say that you are working hard at whatever goal? Seriously. If you were "on your "grind", You should be a nub of yourself now... I seriously hate this term, cause it is nothing more than just a ploy to expose yourself as someone who is trying WAY too hard, to be better than themselves right now... Not everyone has to "grind" to get to their goal, be it something attainable or changing everyday... Your "grind" does NOTHING for me... Your hard work, on the other hand, I applaud.

#9: "Turnt"
If you have ever used this term here, FUCK YOURSELF IN THE EAR!!! What the FUCK is a "turnt?" Is it a bad turnip? What the fuck is this?! Every time I read this term, it does nothing but make me mad... When did the English language become such a punching bag for society!? This is just another term that I have seen used, that means nothing, and that pisses me off... This does nothing to me instead of TURN up my insanity to very dangerous levels... whoever came up with this word needs to be shot in the butt hole!

#8: "Totes"
OH! so we are talking about a bag... right? WRONG!!! Its a shorten version of the word "total" or "totally." Really... this is getting ri-goddamn-diculous!!! I would understand if someone was talking about a bag when they randomly shouted out "TOTES!" But no... they are just being lazy and saying "totally!" Shit like this angers me... I don't have the English language down to a "t," but this abuse of it is just uncalled for... If you use this term, I WILL hit you with SEVERAL totes!

#7: "Meme"
This phenomena has GOT to stop soon... Everyone already thinks that comedy is the lowest form of entertainment, and now that its practical that "EVERYONE" can be funny by using a "meme," It just goes to expose the unfunny of the nation. Any and everything has been "memed," and it is passed time for any and everyone to stop using them... I will admit, I have seen my fair share of funny ones, for sure, but when everyone gets their hands on them, and shares them unrelentlessly, it just brings my blood to a boil... I hate it when the funny has to be dialed down to the bullshit that is this trend... FUCK YOU TO WHOEVER STARTED IT!!!

#6: "Woot Woot"
So... I should be starting a party when you have a basic, small, mundane, bullshit victory?  "I just found the last cheet-o!!! woot woot!" Kill yourself... Right now. Find a gun, a knife, a car, SOMETHING, and kill yourself... The use of this term just goes to show that everything DEFINITELY does not deserve a celebration. If you got a promotion, or you got a job, or even if you got your girlfriend/wife pregnant, then yeah! KNOCK YOURSELF OUT!! Woot it the fuck up! But to celebrate a day of the week, or finding something you forgot about, or anything of that nature, and woot it up, kill yourself. really... just stop living.

#5:  "Throwback"
This word here pisses me off to know end. I know its only number 10, but its like we always have to remember what was... why can't some of us be allowed to forget what was?! How do you know how my past went? Do you think, maybe I wanna just keep that shit behind me for good? But no!! We gotta celebrate "Throwback Thursdays," or some fucked up combination of "throwback," and day... who knows, if that particular Thursday, that you wanna "throwback" was the worst day of my life? Ever think of that!? So, FUCK YOU AND YOUR "THROWBACK!"

#4: "Cray"
Wanna know what makes me crazy? Anyone who uses a shortened term of an ALREADY SHORT WORD!!!!!!!!!!! Are you SERIOUS RIGHT NOW!? CRAY!? FUCK YOU!!!!!! Who came up with this mockery of laziness?! What fuck hole did this one come from!? I am beyond sick of this word, and the song that it came from. I can honestly say that I heard the word not even 1 whole time, and I hate that term so much... because, its just beyond lazy. It does not make you cool, or awesome when you use it, it makes you look retarded. Yeah. I said it. RETARDED! So stop it, or else your heart will be eaten by sharks. They will not eat the rest of your body, just your heart. "Cray." A normal person will look at this and say... they can't even finish spelling "crayon?" Lazy, sad, and uncalled for.

#3: " Leggo"
So when did "Lego" and "Eggo" have a child? The right way to say it is LET'S GO! When the fuck did your tongue become so lazy to actually be proud of saying this out loud!? Are you really wanting to try my patience? This is the greatest show of how fucked up the English language has become. Why is is so hard to just complete a thought, or a word by saying it fully?! The Internets should be ashamed of itself for allowing such fuckery to grace its entanglement.... It for damn sure, don't make you look tough or ready when you say it... it makes you look dumber than cat shit. An old lady should run you over in her Buick for saying this.

#2: "Swagg"
What the simple fuck is "swagg?" What do you have to brag about!? What the super shit is so great about your brightly colored, and tacky shirt, your diaper inspired pants, and those gaudy shoes that need just ONE MORE strap for it to be considered "happy goth" that is worth the brag? And that fake gold whatever-the-fuck you have around your neck, is suppose to impress me?! God knows that I'm a patient man, but if I hear this word again, I will sink a city block... What in the blue balls fuck are you talking about anyways?! It just makes you look and more importantly SOUND stupid when you say something that uncool... Kids today are fucked, and guess who is going to get fucked over by them... MY GENERATION!!!! SON OF A BITCH!!!!

And now, MY #1 word that needs to die a horrible and unrelentlessly hilarious death...

#1: "YOLO"
... ... ... Uh... ... I probably will literally kill the person who ever mentions this term to me, in front of my face.
I will seriously take my bare hands, and drag you towards the closest cop, put my hands around your neck, and make them watch as I enjoy watching your eyes go black... This term is a rally cry for those of you out there who has a death wish... wouldn't it be easier to just and jump off of a bridge into on-coming traffic? I mean... "You Only Live Once..." right? Do your parents a favor, and do that if you ever say this word... I am so sick of this lifestyle of where only the young live... That is a slap in the face of each and everyone of your elders and ancestors who have had all types of trials and tribulations to make sure that you are here today, just so you can just live once? FUCK YOU, YOU SELFISH, UNAPPRECIATIVE, FUCK UP!!!!!!

So yeah... these words can go and burn in a trash fire... They really need to!

HONORABLE MENTION!!!

Words that are still on the chopping block...

"BOI" it's spelled, BOY, you dumb shit!

"Hashtag" Fuck Twitter.

"Epic" It is unfortunately losing it's power, and its because, something dumb, stupid, and small, is "epic." Fuck you for using it.

"OMG" And any version of it INCLUDING the "err muh gerd" needs to be shot repeatedly in the face.

"Honey Boo Boo" I hope this dies out soon... seriously... the world DID NOT/DOES NOT NEED shit like this.

and finally

"I Can Haz" This retarded shit REALLY pisses me off... Its not English, and it is stupid, and it makes you sound stupid.

So yes, this is what I had to say about certain words that are being used currently... Grow the fuck up America, and let's speak in terms that we ALL can understand what the fuck you are saying again!